Learning to enjoy your own successes

”Live your passion. People with passion can change the world.” - Steve Jobs  

A lot of people have the passion required to change the world but very often they feel they can’t celebrate and enjoy their own successes. They hide their success because they are worried about being seen as a fraud or someone pointing out that they are wrong.

Why some people struggle to celebrate their own successes

Imposter Syndrome

Imposter Syndrome can have a big impact on people and how they showcase their successes.

But not celebrating our successes, even the small ones, can have a big impact on our mental health. By not showcasing our talents and achievements, we miss out on praise and compliments which can boost our self esteem.

The first step to overcoming Imposter Syndrome is to recognise you are suffering from it, then you can start to separate feelings from facts. One great tip is to keep positive comments or feedback and store them in a folder on your computer, then when you need a confidence boost, read them and remind yourself how great you are.

How you can start to learn to enjoy successes

Start believing in yourself

Don’t be afraid to stop for a moment. The world won’t fall apart because you stop and cheer yourself on. Be your own cheerleader.

We sometimes get so consumed looking at other people’s achievements that we forget to look at our journey and how far we have come.

Surround yourself with people who champion you and support you in everything you do. As hard as it can be, you need to stay away from anyone who has a negative impact on you or your confidence.

Find your own way to celebrate success

For some people, celebrating success needs to be a big fanfare, they post on social media and text all of their friends. For others, the celebrating is quieter - they might only want to tell their support network.

However, you chose to enjoy your successes is ok, don’t feel you need to do something that puts you out of your comfort zone.

Amongst the celebrating, don’t forget to stop and look back at our achievements and the journey that led you there. Reflect on the path you took and be proud.

Stop downplaying those successes - telling the world you did something great isn’t bragging

Sometimes people feel proud of something they have achieved but fear that telling others about it will lead to accusations of bragging. Being proud of yourself and telling others is not bragging, it is giving people permission to celebrate your success with you.

If anyone says otherwise then they aren’t supposed to be apart of your support network. Surround yourself with people who will cheer you on when you achieve your goals.

Like everything this will take time to learn and it might help to find out the root cause of the reason you struggle to celebrate success. This can be done through therapy or even just talking to someone close to you about your feelings.

Remember not to put pressure on yourself, everyone is different so don’t feel you need to celebrate success in the same way other people do.