The C Word

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Wife

Which qualities should I look for in a wife?

Perhaps you wonder the same thing as you consider spending the rest of your life with one special person. 

The idea of being with one woman. Waking up to one woman with that smell perhaps she will smell like strawberries or like warm soil that's been rained on. It scares you. You can't imagine leaving all this fun and youth for one woman. 

When you think of that question, you know the answer entails many deep  internal characteristics but in everyday life you still find it hard to get past the superficial. 

A cute girl walks in the room and all your common sense evaporates. 


Like she drains it. All of it. 

How many times have you made a complete fool of yourself by falling head over heels for someone simply because of her charm and beauty? 


Too many times?

To cure this tendency you created a little game. When you meet a beautiful girl and you're tempted to be overly impressed by her external features, you try to imagine what the girl will look like when she's fifty.


What happens when her beauty fades? 

Does anything within her beckon to me? 

Is it her character that radiates and draws you towards her or is it just the fact that her see-through dress shows off too much of her perfect complexion? 


So what if her feminine outline captures my eye today? 

When pregnancies add stretch marks and years add extra pounds will something in this girl's soul continue attracting me? 

This is the stage where most men become untamable. 40-50 or even 60. When her beauty is gone. Her complexion isn't quite attractive anymore. Her figure has been damaged due to the addition of pounds, age did bad things to her outlook. 


Are you still attracted to the woman you were attracted to 30 years ago? 

Are you still willing to take a bullet for her, are you still willing to help her out with the stubborn last born child who took after you? Do you feel lucky the same way you felt when she  invited you into her room to fix her bulb, hang her curtain or kill the cockroach. Are you? Or you would rather go back to the streets. Energetic but this time not young, nor attractive. Go back and start hunting all over again, for a woman that's not her but looks like her when she was that age; young, pretty with the same height and complexion. 

Learn to catch glimpses of true character, these girls fake perfectly. But like the daylight penetrates through the very small holes or cracks so does little things that illustrate a person's character. Character consists of little acts, well and honourably performed. This is the stage where most men become untamable. 40-50 or even 60. When her beauty is gone. Her complexion isn't quite attractive anymore. Her figure has been damaged due to the addition of pounds, age did bad things to her outlook. 


Are you still attracted to the woman you were attracted to 30 years ago? 

Are you still willing to take a bullet for her, are you still willing to help her out with the stubborn last born child who took after you? Do you feel lucky the same way you felt when she  invited you into her room to fix her bulb, hang her curtain or kill the cockroach. 

Are you? 

Or you could rather go back to the streets. Energetic but this time not young, nor attractive. Go back and start hunting all over again, for a woman that's not her but looks like her when she was that age; young, pretty with the same height and complexion. 

Learn to catch glimpses of true character, these girls fake perfectly. But like the daylight penetrates through the very small holes or cracks so does little things that illustrate a person's character. Character consists of little acts, well and honourably performed.